One of our deepest human needs is to be known by another. So when a guy feels known and understood by you, he feels loved — which is ultimately what men want in relationships.
However, couples often assume they already know everything about one another. Women, especially. But many partners leave so many things unsaid. Men, especially — even those in happy, long-term relationships.
It is surprising really, all the things men and women don't know and have never asked about each other. What surprises them even more is how curious they can become once they start.
But, even after taking the initiative to ask deep questions that will help you learn more about what your boyfriend or husband wants in your relationship, there are some things that most men simply won't admit — no matter how open, in love with you or safe they feel.
When it comes to understanding what men want in relationships, here are 11 things guys wish the woman they love knew that they'd probably never tell you.
1. They're sensitive, too
Men are more sensitive than they let on.
2. They like getting compliments just as much as you do
Men like to be complimented about their appearance.
3. They take pride in their ability to care for you
Men show love by going to work and providing for their families.
4. They want to meet your sexual needs
Men care deeply that their partner is sexually satisfied.
5. They don't like to be compared to other men
Men dislike their partners to compare them with other women’s husbands, especially with respect to their earning power.
6. They enjoy some 'unknowns' in relationships
Men like their partner to maintain a bit of mystery, spontaneity, and unpredictability.
7. They have trouble being vulnerable
Men want women to understand that vulnerability is difficult for them. In this society, men are conditioned for stoicism, toughness and competitiveness. Opening up is very challenging.
8. They see the world differently than you do
Men see the world in terms of hierarchical structures.
9. They're hard-wired to take charge
Men put Herculean effort into adapting to our egalitarian society. It’s a struggle for them to be less dominant.
10. They have real struggles
Men want women to understand that the life of boys is not easy. The rites of passage are different from the experience of women and involve risk-taking, competitiveness, dealing with physical aggression, top-dogging, etc. They have been formed by their upbringing and cultural norms.
11. Their brains work differently than yours
Men tend to be more sequential and linear thinkers and doers, which makes them less able to multi-task.
If any of these topics have caused friction between you and your man, consider what you can change about the way you talk and react to him that would show you understand him better.
Not only will it help you give him what he wants in your relationship, it will inspire him to provide the quality of love and affection you crave, too.